Where is your attention

"Often we find our minds darting off in many directions and not in the present moment.  There are times when we need to plan for the future, or briefly revisit the past, and it becomes necessary to have your attention concentrated in these directions.  That is a form of wise attention.  What I am referring to is “unskillful attention” and where you can become more mindful of it.  For example, if you find yourself in conversation with someone difficult, there is a tendency to selectively ignore them.  Your attention becomes quite fragmented.  This can be a form of aversion or shutting down to avoid dealing with something you may not have fully developed the skill set to be with.  Also, desiring something intensely can create a tremendous challenge for our attention because we become completely enraptured with what we want.  It becomes more powerful than our capacity to be present.

I encourage you to pose the following questions: read more here