Habit 1 & 2

By Franklin Covey


Gray, melancholy day. We get into a mood and the whole day goes bad.

Carry your weather with you regardless of how people treat you. Don't be victim of your mood or victim of your condition.

Habit 2: Being Proactive

Between what happens to us, that is stimulus and our response, is a SPACE. In that space lies our power and our freedom to choose our response and in those choices lay our growth and happiness.

Example: Victor Frankl (prisoner, therapist, author) who went through unbelievable indignities observed in the Nazi concentration camp that different people reacted differently to the same circumstances. As he was laying on the torture table, he discovered 'the last human freedom'; he visulaized lecturing his students in Austria and telling them about his atrocities that he endured. He said having a a sense of purpose is what saved him; a contribution yet to be made.  Basic human capbility that man has is the freedom to choose. This became the  for his brilliant autobigrophy the basis for "Man's Search For Meaning".

It's not what people do to us that hurts us, it's our chosen response that hurts us.

We must simply never build our emotional life based on the weaknesses of other people. We give our power , our future away, otherwise, we give them permission to mess up our lives.